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December 21, 2007

  • I haven’t blogged in ages but I feel that I just have to unload some shit so you don’t have to read my incoherent ramblings I’m just going to let it rip and pray it helps my aching soul heal just a bit more than the vodka I drank tonite cause it’s not helping so far.

    I am grieving today for the loss of someone special, someone from my life in Seattle who made me laugh, stayed up late to talk and who loved to party. I have recently decided to close a chapter in my life that no longer suits me and it’s simply because of things like this. I’ve seen too many people in my life, myself included eaten up by the empty party life style. I will be scorned by some of my friends that will say I just can’t handle my party but the truth is none of us can handle the party it handles us in a slow sneaky way that creeps into every other part of life until it all becomes shit. There are veterans that have lived the fun life for decades and it suites them fine so I’m not one to sit here and say it’s not right for everyone, it’s just not right for me anymore. I lost two friends this year and I believe that partying had a lot to do with it. Drinking or whatnot fucks with your emotions and it’s hard to keep your head straight. Depression becomes an unwelcome guest, self loathing, doubt and anger creep in slowly… taking over reality.

    The saddest part is the decline and the misery when the party ends and you look around and realize there is noone of substance around to support you because you have run all the “squares” out of your life. There is noone strong to stand up to you and coach you toward reality. There is noone there to support you unless you want to get fucked up. I’m so done destroying myself. Making cholces for today and not worrying about what happens tomorrow. I’ve spent one too many nights wide awake, fighting sleep listening to my partner sleep to make sure he doesn’t die right beside me because we partied too hard that night and I’m paranoid he’s overdosed. How is that fun? And maybe, just maybe some will say, “you just can’t handle your party” but it doesn’t start out that way. It starts small, it starts as fun and blows up into a full cyle melt down over time and before you even realize it.

    When “B” died I often thought that it had nothing to do with partying because he didn’t party anymore but in the absence of drugs he had become a raging alcoholic, sad, angry and depressed at life. Hopeless…. this is where we all end up after years of partying abusing our bodies and minds and having a lack of discipline. We kill ourselves just a little bit every day. Drugs, alcohol, food whatever. What have we sacrificed in the name of fun? jobs? lovers? family? our lives? our friends?

    “T”should not have died either, he was beautiful, loving, kind and lost. Do our party friends step in to help us when we are falling apart or do we all just point and say man that guy needs help he’s fucked up! I’m done hanging out with people that will help me get fucked up and don’t give a shit whether or not my life is falling apart. People in the party world have often told me I’m weird or too emotional but you know what I translate that too? i don’t want to hear that I’m hurting myself can’t you just mind your own business? Well i see where minding my own business has gotten me, two dead friends. Two beautiful young men who needed love support and positive reinforcement to help them create change in their lives. How did I contribute to them? I got high with them and partied until dawn, listened to stories and stayed neutral. I never talked to them about anything healthy because we were always fucked up together. What an empty sad life I’ve had, to love people around me so much but do nothing, where has the attitude “they are old enough to take care of themselves gotten me? And why am I the odd man out to really feel for the health and safety of others around me, especially my “friends”. I’m the worst kind of offender because I have been silent when I’ve seen the problem and let the fear of rejection keep me from standing up and saying hey man are you really going to be ok? and i’ve been an enabler. No more. I have been out of the party scene for a moment considering I’ve basically had a party “career” and the farther I get away from the mentality I realize how much time i’ve wasted making myself and those I care about fade away because of my own fear of having ‘Feelings!” or not being able to feel ‘free” or “in touch with myself” without being high, Fucking pathetic.

    I’m devastated my friends have taken their own lives, there was no reason for it. What can I learn from it? Stay Sober and start listening to the people around me, love more, speak less, listen with all ears. Be too fucking nosey! Tell people what I feel about them and when I think they are hurting themselves. Not to make them feel bad or wrong but to let them know I love them and I want them to live so I can have them as my friends for a long, long time. My heart rejoices in their success and my heart is crushed in thier unnecessary demise. I’m sure I sound like a real preachy bitch right now but I don’t care! I hear people say it’s not my place to stand up it’s not my place to say something but who are you NOT to care? If you don’t do it, If I don’t do it who will?

    I will celebrate their lives daily by respecting myself and remembering their smiles, laughter and the love they represented to me and others. Good men who needed support from all of us, where were we? Thinking only of ourselves I’m sure. Where does “taking care of yourself” get you? When do we look up to notice the people around us need us and we need them?

    The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.
     
    ~Albert Einstein~
     
     
     

February 27, 2007

  • So I have a new obession… I think about it all the time and I think it makes me a little nerdy but I feel so satisfied, excited, imaginative… content. That’s a new word for me :) “Content” So I figured why not start blogging again now that I actually have something interesting to talk about other than being mad, sad, bored or happy with my boyfriend. Hahaha!

    Hi, my name is Nerrissa and I am a craftster.org addict!! I first started swapping 4 months ago and I just can’t seem to stop! You might think it’s funny but it’s a really become an obession. At least it’s a healthy one. I stumbled on craftster back in October I think and I thought I’d found a little slice of heaven. I don’t remember being this excited since I discovered EBAY years ago and that was not such a fun addiction. Buying lots of old crap online just because I liked getting packages!! Hahaha! I am still shopaholic but I am curbing the appetite to buy things buy increasing my appetite to create. It’s such a good outlet for me, especially since it’s so hard for me to be still and relax. I think this is my mother’s fault, somehow. Sorry Mum. But really I used to wonder why she just couldn’t sit still and now I’m just like her :) I guess we are just “get it done” kind of girls. Nuttin wrong with that now.

    Here are some of my latest projects!

    Valentine’s Day Crafts

    I had the bright idea to make something for my girlfriends that didn’t have Valentine’s Day Dates so I made three little lovely “dates” for my girls. And if that wasn’t a big enought project I decided to make little hats for my cousins in Canada for V-Day. I have always hated Valentine’s day, loathed really. Until my current boyfriend romanced the loathing right out of me and I’m happy to say I am now a convert. It’s nice to be loved and it’s even better to make someone else feel loved, special even.


     

    I made these hats to go on little heads not my big fat one :)   They are made out of wool sweaters I found at the thrift store and a very unfortunate  red velvet dress  that  I cut  up for  trim. 

     

    I like the cream colored one best. They are a rectangle shape so they make little ears on a littler head :) I hope they send me cute pictures so I can see how they fit on them. I can’t wait.

    And finally Arthur, Stan and Willis -My Date in a Box Kit -no Valentine’s Day would be complete without a Date bearing chocolates and flowers complete with Bow Tie and formal attire ready for a big night on the town.

    It’s amazing how I can amuse myself for hours sewing little parts and
    stuffing and dreaming of how they will make someone smile. I even sewed
    on little felt hearts, rhinestone eyes and one even has cute cupid
    earrings for eyes. The rubber pink heart came off my roommate’s
    forever21 price tag hangy thingy  resourceful I know.

      

    Arthur in a magenta  feather  heart. Overall Sock Monkeys were a success, I will have to make them again soon. I will have to wait until Kohl’s has another buy one pair get one free sale. I Sock Monkeys!!!

  • Day of the Dead Sculpture

    Made of Paper Clay and lots of patience, next time I will be smart and build a wire frame first. :) I made a death metal guitarist… :) no pun intented. he is rockin out on his speed metal guitar complete with skully head and flames!!! Dark and lovely!

      

     

August 27, 2006

  • I had the weirdest dreams last night I can’t even begin to interpret them. I worked a charity event at the Barker Hanger in Santa Monica last night and I’m thinking it was the wine :) I hade the most amazing wine it was from Italy made from a native grape it wasn’t a merlot and it wasn’t a cab. It was divine and I wish I would have written it down because I no short term memory and I’ve already forgotten what it was. What a shame! Stupid brain. :) My goal for today is to get up off of this couch! Can I do it? Not sure yet.

August 24, 2006

  • I think I’m bipolar- today I had an undeniable urge to go home to what I know. I’m getting so tired of looking at hard faces and talking to people who could really care less about me. I’ve always had the attitude that it shouldn’t matter as long as i care what’s going on in my environment but I have a deep sadness in my heart that stems from this waking and sleeping in a foreign place. I need people around me that care. I want to be around people who know me and still like me. I think I’ve been running long enough from what I left at home. I have conquered and quashed it, I have gotten back to the being the person I understandand want to be. I want to go home today :) tomorrow who the hell knows. Ah to be a woman.

June 13, 2006

  • I haven’t written in so long I forget what it was like to sit and type
    away my thoughts. Life is good, work is going very well and I have
    already had an eventful summer. My best friend from New York flew in
    for Memorial Day and we drove to Vegas for the long weekend to see
    MADONNA!!! It was the best concert ever and I’ve been to a lot of
    concerts. I think the lady beside me thought I was nuts because I
    kept  yelling OMG it’s Madonna! Hahaha I’m such a groupie. We
    didn’t stay anywhere special but it was still a lot of fun, even after
    Erica got super sick the first night and we got kicked out of the
    hottest club in Vegas because she was puking in the bathroom. lol. Sad. Picture 1
    However, we did make up for it the next day when we went to REHAB at
    the Hard Rock Cafe, that place was out of control! So many young,
    hotties and everyone was messed up, it was quite a scene! We were
    having so  much fun we stayed in the pool until we realized we
    were going to be late for Madonna at the MGM so we ran out of the pool
    and threw our clothes on just in time to run to our seats! It was so
    funny, no make up, wet hair, no bra. We were quite a mess, good times.
    Erica and I always have fun together. I wish we lived closer together
    but then I know we would be getting into all kinds of trouble all the
    time.

    The following weekend my old roommate got married to a lovely lady and
    they had one of the most personal and elegant weddings I’ve been too.
    It was very much a reflection on their personalities, not fussy, classy
    and relaxed. It was very pretty as well a combination of traditonal
    thai and american ceremony. It was inspiring. It’s funny because I have
    always thought  of myself as not the marrying kind, but since I’ve
    been with Dan I can almost picture how our wedding would be like,
    almost. I think we are going to get married in Vegas because that’s
    where we met but he hasn’t even proposed so I’m slightlly ahead of
    myself so I won’t start picking out my dress yet, lol. Seattle is
    always fun and I miss it on a daily basis but the longer I’m gone the
    more I feel like it will never be home again for me. California has a
    lot to offer, except housing for sale and I like our life here. I’m not
    sure I could go home and be as successful. Sad.

    Last weekend I started sewing costumes for the fairy ball that we go to
    every year and it was somewhat successful and somewhat of a disaster.
    Needless to say someone who does not have any formal training might
    find it hard to follow a pattern. Especially someone who can’t follow
    directions. lol. I started making a dress and ended up with a top and a
    skirt. I am the Queen of improvision, my next goal is to learn how to
    sew properly, I think I owe it to my poor sewing machine. :) It’s like
    driving a car without driver’s ed, I don’t recommend it. I will have to
    post some pictures once our costumes are all finished. I was so proud
    of Dan he actually came out to the garment district and picked out his
    own fabric :) He’s really a gem, I’m finally begining to realize it. I
    knewit all along but I dont’ think you really come to appreciate
    someone until you’ve had time to let it all sink in…. I’m crazy and
    he’s still here and he might not go anywhere unless I really f’ things
    up. lol. Life is comfortable and fun. Until next time- Mwah!

April 23, 2006

  • Hello in Xangaland. I thought I was due for an update! I had a fun day
    of shopping at the Gen Art LA event in WeHo today. Anytime they have
    pink champagne and hot clothes there is trouble for my pocket book. I
    was so proud of myself for not spending a ridiculous amount of money
    today. But I did pick up a sweet “meghan fabulous” dress and a cute
    belt to go with it. 

    Dan and I are going on our first cruise together in July so I am on the
    prowl for cute outfits. I’m super excited because I’ve never really
    travelled anywhere so I”m looking forward to getting out of the US for
    a minute. It’s especially fun because it’s a cruise for young
    professionals so the whole cruise will be filled with other people our
    age. I didn’t want to end up on an old people’s cruise so it will be
    fun to see what this is like. We are going to Mexico for four days!
    It’s not a super long or very far away trip, but it’s still a real trip :)   This is the first start to my new goal of travelling more,
    next winter I want to shoot for Brazil.

March 21, 2006

  • [12:51] faerykisses23: I have nothing to do but work today!
    [12:51] faerykisses23: lol
    [12:52] ddangoo: eh?
    [12:52] ddangoo: that should be your life slogan
    [12:52] ddangoo: mine is “you pick it, i’ll stick it”
    [12:52] faerykisses23: lol
    [12:52] ddangoo: interperate any way you like


    Seriously, I’m having one of those days when I’d rather be doing anything else but working and it’s very counter productive. Now that I’ve gotten my blogs down to one entry a month I thought I was about due for an update. I should be formulating my new plan of attack for marketing  this quarter so I can make my goals, but instead I am spending oodles of time on cuteoverload.com and myspace.com (doesn’t everyone in the world have an account by now?) I have the highest goals this year than I’ve ever had and it’s a lot of pressure. That’s why I’m spending all this time talking about it rather and actually doing it. At least it seems like I’m really busy doing something right now. lol. I guess I lack something right now, I forget what it’s called but I think I had some before. Could it be FOCUS possibly?


    I think I am finally coming to terms with the understanding that life is never boring, ever. Especially when you have my family to contend with, there is no rest in sight. I think I have seriously contemplated dissapearing from the face of the earth for awhile but unfortunetly I know that all my beautiful problems will still be here when I come back. After all I tried to move away from my problems years ago when I left Seattle and they just came with me anyways.  I mean seriously, this growing up and old and out stuff get old sometimes. I wonder what kind of trailer I would live in by now if I would have settled and stayed in Seattle?


    What happens when you get everything you want? Or should I say everything you think you want


        From Cute Overload! I am totally addicted! It’s part of my personal campaign to maintain a positive outlook on life.

February 21, 2006

  • hello-kitty-vd


    I’m so late :) But Valentine’s day was wonderful this year. I really have to get over my anti-valentine’s day attitude because since I’ve been dating Dan he has always gone above and beyond to make it a special day for me. I”m really spoiled and I love him so much. What a lucky girl I am! We went to the Crepe Vine Bistro in Old Town Pasadena and it was very romantic, small but wonderful food. I don’t recommend the dessert though it was really nasty for such an upscale restaurant. We polished off a nice bottle of wine while listening to a little Nina Simone and laughing like little kids. Good times… I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel, could it be the end of my pissy depression? Maybe I’ve just had way too much coffee today.